July 27th was my mother's birthday and she would have been 105 years old today. To mark the day I have dug deep into the box containing old photographic odds and ends and discovered an unframed 35mm colour slide dating back to the 1960s. When scanned and cleaned-up it shows my mother, Gladys, stood on the sands at Blackpool - at that point where the land and the water meet, a point that was always her favourite location. The fact that it was Blackpool didn't really matter, she would have been just as happy in Scarborough, or Bournemouth or, I suspect, Tristan da Cunha: as long as she was at the point where sand and sea met and she could gaze out towards the distant horizon looking for - who knows what?
I don't know what because, I regret to say, I never asked her. I doubt that it was the sea that was the draw: she didn't particularly enjoy being on the sea as such. And it wasn't the established seaside paraphernalia that attracted her: she wasn't one for deck chairs and pony rides, hot dogs and cold bathing. I like to think that it was the merging and the margin that appealed to her - the point and which land became sea; the point at which one state became another.
I enjoy the seaside as well as the next man, but it doesn't draw me like it drew my mother. However I am fond of the merging at the margins, the transformation of one thing into something else. I am drawn to that place where an image is transformed from being a factual record into something else. I am not quite sure what that something else is, but the very same photograph of my mother in Blackpool provides a good example. The left of the photograph shows a perfect representation of my mother: wrapped up against the wind blowing off the Irish Sea, anchored to the wet sands in her fur boots. By the time your eye has reached the right of the photograph, something else is taking place - something to do with impressions and shapes and colours and memory.
So this birthday celebration allows both my mother and I to wander the place we love the best, observing the coming together of sea and land, reality and memory. Happy birthday Mam.
Really enjoyed this post. I have a liking for margins and fine lines, and I believe it's because I've found it near impossible to find a place that's a good fit. Whether walking a fine line, or standing at the margins, one can sample the best of both in the merging. Maybe your mum felt something similar?
ReplyDeleteI find the water relaxing, perhaps it was the same for her. I have never seen the Irish Sea but I am certain I would enjoy it. Is that a family member in the red? :)
ReplyDeleteNice memories of your Mom.
ReplyDeleteI don't much care for most people's idea of the seaside. I don't like sitting in a deckchair getting boiling hot, and I don't like sand between my toes, and I don't want to swim in the sea.
ReplyDeleteBut I do love the place where the sea meets the land. Especially if there are rock pools or boulders or interesting pebbles, or bits of rock to hit to see if you can find a fossil.
My mother loved that place where sea meets land. Luckily we rarely have to dress like that at the beach. I also love walking along the water's edge. I like this quote:
ReplyDelete"We take photos as a return ticket to a moment otherwise gone."
Interesting that whoever took the photo has included the shoreline in it, definitely takes equal billing with your mum. Nice photo.
ReplyDeleteThis was a really really good one, Alan. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteI like looking at the sea and the sky and I don't know why. My father would have been 105 June 13 of this year.
ReplyDeleteYou're right and I haven't thought of it in a long time. That little strip of land, no matter the tide level, where the sea kisses the shore is magical. It's been a long time since I walked the shoreline.
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